But a girl is not asked.

She is expected to make her choice, and yet she cannot choose, she can only answer 'yes' or 'no.

'" "Yes, to choose between me and Vronsky," thought Levin, and the dead thing that had come to life within him died again, and only weighed on his heart and set it aching.

"Darya Alexandrovna," he said, "that's how one chooses a new dress or some purchase or other, not love.